"I, Parvati Pujari, am a National Junior
Trainer with Magic Bus in Mumbai. My struggle to reach where I am today is a
story worth sharing.
I was born on 16th August 1990 at
Bhabha Hospital in Mumbai. This was a first for my mother – her three first
children, my elder sisters, had all been born in the shanties she lived in at
the time. I was the first one to be born in a hospital.
My father worked on a construction site as a
mason, and my mother looked after me and my six siblings. We didn’t have a home
to call of our own. Mostly we stayed in shanty housing in the different construction
sites where my father would be employed. After my youngest sister was born, we
were nine members in the family and it was getting impossible for us to survive
on just one income. So my mother also started working for a living. During that
time my father was a construction labourer in a huge upcoming complex named
Phoenix Mills in Lower Parel. My eldest sister never went to school, she was in
charge while my parents worked.
Parvati with the prizes she has won over the years
My parents did not really think education was
important, not when getting the next meal was of topmost priority, so none of
my elder sisters went to school. A small NGO named Sunbeam taught me basics
like alphabets and numbers in Hindi. We loved the teachers there because unlike
at school, these volunteer teachers paid a lot of personal attention to each
child and ensured that their concepts were clear. My curiosity and enthusiasm made
me continue attending the classes. My younger sisters used to tag along too.
My eldest sister was married off at an early
age of 12. If only she had been educated or received proper guidance as I did
later in my life, she could have been saved from the clutches of this child marriage.
One day, Sunbeam took us on a three-day excursion organised by Magic Bus. It was a unique experience for me – I had
never been on a picnic before. Those three days I still remember as absolute
magic playing and learning with friends in a safe environment. It was here that
I understood the meaning of bonding, of what it means to have friends.
Later, Sunbeam helped me get an admission in
the Lower Parel Municipal School where I completed my 3rd and 4th
grades. I realised I could be an athlete when I received my first prize
money of Rs. 21 in the annual sports day held in the school.
Parvati on the training field
I was 9 years old when I started attending
the Magic Bus weekly sessions, on Wednesdays. The sessions at Magic Bus made me
relive the magic of the three-day excursion – we were all playing, learning, sharing
and caring. Over the years, we learnt complex things like communication skills
and teamwork, and also simple things like hand-washing, which keeps germs away.
Because of my skills I was given specialised
training. I was just 10 then. I used to travel alone from lower Parel to the
park in buses. This training helped me enhance my skills in sports later. By
then I was also becoming an avid footballer.
When I was in 9th grade, my
parents refused to let me pursue my studies any further. They felt it was my
age to be married. My elder sisters had been married at the age of 12, 13 and
17 respectively. After marriage all three of them settled in different
villages. I did not want to end up like them, bound to the home in a village, so I decided to fight for what I
believed in. My father complained of the burden that my education had caused
him; he said because of the expenditure on my education, he did not have enough
money to feed my younger sisters. After a whole two months of resistance, my
parents let me continue my education.
I finished my 10th grade and my
family began to pressurize me for marriage again. My mentors from Magic Bus
spoke to my parents and offered me the job with Magic Bus. Magic Bus gave me a
fellowship and paid me a stipend of Rs. 2500 per month. I was 15 and I was
thrilled beyond belief. I used my income to pay for my college tuition and
support my family. I worked from 9 am to 5 pm and enrolled myself in a
junior night college where I completed my 12th grade.
I had done all my schooling in a Hindi medium
school so when I joined college, it was a big challenge for me to cope with the
English-language classes. Most of my friends would attend coaching classes but
I did not have any time as I was working during the day.
I received my board results while I was at a
refresher training camp with Magic Bus. I had managed to score a 59% in my Boards
and I was satisfied. My parents were proud of me. By the time I came back from
the camp, the admissions in all the colleges were closed. I decided to test my
luck and visited Siddharth College where I got admission on the basis of sports
quota for a Bachelors degree in Commerce. During the same time, I got selected
as a National level Rugby player.
Interview with India's famous talk show host and acclaimed Director, Karan Johar, at a fundraising dinner organised for Magic Bus.
Also, I started playing football for various
clubs like Magic Bus Football Club and Body Line Club. I stood first in an
essay writing competition held by Laadli, an organisation that worked for the
welfare of women.
While I was in my second year of under
graduation, I was awarded with the “Active Woman in Sports” award with prize money
of Rs. 15,000 from my college. Magic Bus promoted me to the Training and
Accreditation team. In my 3 years of college, not once has the championship cup
gone to any other college in inter-collegiate sports tournaments.
It was during this time that I made my first
trip abroad to London with Matthew Sir, the founder of Magic Bus for a
fundraising program. It was a memorable experience, telling everyone how I had
missed the life of a poverty-stricken woman by a whisper, and how their support
can make sure girls like me don’t grow up to be uneducated mothers. I also got
the opportunity to attend the Julie Foudy Leadership program for football
training during the same time.
Right now, I am awaiting my final semester
results. I am considering doing a sports management degree . My parents
are still coaxing me to get married while I work relentlessly to fulfill my
goals. For me, accepting responsibility for my life, knowing it is only me who
can get me where I want to be has helped overcome my challenges."